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More About Haley

Growing Up

Let’s start from the very beginning… I was raised an only child, in a small family, in Northeastern, CT where blue collar seemed to leach through the water systems. When I was four my parents experienced a messy divorce, forcing them to co-parent from separate homes. At a young age, I was considered the family mediator, the middle woman, and the one who possessed the ability to keep the peace. My parents did the best they could, attempting to give me the life they never had, which in a serendipitous way, they succeeded at that.

My Rock

One of the very few stable facets of my childhood were my maternal grandparent’s marriage, love and support. As my parents worked tirelessly to financially support their needs as well as their daughters, meanwhile I was likely cooking or baking with my Nana, working around a farm with my grandfather, or riding my horse in their backyard. Relishing in the natural world and using my hands to accomplish a goal became my natural state of flow, purpose & utility.

Gaining Experience

Before I turned sixteen, I began applying for jobs around town. Somehow back then, it was DIFFICULT to land even an entry-level job. But I had stories to tell about milking cows, making pies, breads, cookies, and planting a garden, that made me hirable to a pizza shop in town. I began making my own giant chocolate chip cookies at home to sell at the register. I was the kid who sold pencil lead, rented out pens, and ate sardines at school.

Leaning Into My Passions

Senior year of high school, a Johnson & Wales student came to visit our second-year cooking class. My family swayed me away from pursuing a baking degree but it felt like my natural next step. During my second year at JWU I began to realize the health drawbacks and limitations within the world of baking. I started to become curious around the world of nutrition and how food biochemically affects the functionality of the human mind, body and spirit. After graduating, I felt uninspired and lacked direction so I decided to travel to Grand Teton National Park in Wyoming to return to my roots and fulfill a lifelong dream of leading guests through the western mountains on horseback for the summer. This adventure gifted me a new sense of clarity, which led me to pursue a B.S. in Nutritional Science & Food Science at UConn.

Intentionally Shaping My Career

Post college I managed for a major corporate food contracting company yet again found myself feeling lifeless, bored, and unaligned in my position. I decided to take a huge scary leap and start The Holistic Trick, my now six-figure business as a Personal Chef, providing personalized meal prep and boutique catering services. I started with a couple thousand in savings, zero clients, and drove Uber + Lyft for about a year while I hustled and grew my clientele. It was a time of growth and rebirth, coupled with a breakup, move to a new city, and the cancer diagnoses and death of my favorite person, my maternal grandfather.

My Growing Edge

I became a highly successful and sought-after Chef for families, executives, lawyers, doctors, famous artists & authors, and athletes including several New England Patriots. I was flowing in my zone of genius when I went on a date with my now husband. We clicked right away and shared a similar vision of living on a big piece of land, growing our own food, raising our own animals, and starting a family if all that fit into the picture. I was manifesting more than I’d ever dreamed of, things were grooving, and then… things got serious. When my husband popped the question this sea of fear overtook my nervous system. A mental block I couldn’t break free from was, how could I ever be a successful joyous wife, with a loyal adoring husband when historically, every relationship I’ve ever engaged in failed in a puddle of dysfunction, deceit and chaos?

What Led Me to Coaching

The childhood trauma, wounding and conditioning my parent’s experienced throughout their divorce became reincarnated in my 20-something reality, even though they weren’t mutually exclusive experiences. I felt out of control, afraid, and destined for abandonment and failure. This was around the same time I was hired to cook for a woman’s coaching retreat led by the esteemed Caitlin Winkley at her family’s farm venue, Smith Farm Gardens. A few months later, I embarked on my own personal growth journey and began coaching with Caitlin.

I quickly experienced major shifts in my personal + career life including booking more clients, making A LOT more money, selling + marketing with ease, feeling safe to be a fiancé + future wife, setting A LOT of boundaries, and feeling competent to craft the life I always dreamed of. All I could think was, everyone needs this transformation and support in their life!

In 2022, I earned my life coach training certification through the Next Level Life Coach Training program. I’m thrilled and honored to fulfill my purpose as a Life & Business Coach, and inspire others to pour gasoline on their own innate power and experience the magic the universe has in store for them.